Post by Admin on Nov 8, 2015 14:47:44 GMT
After the original honey moon period when you are walking on cloud nine there comes a point where your differences appear. Some differences you will be able to put up with but others may be a struggle.
So what now ?
You're two different people, with different talents, gifts, passions, and dreams. Pursuing those dreams while merging your lives together isn't always easy.
So, how can you maintain unity in your marriage?
Try out these tips
"You" becomes "Us"
First figure out how to work as a team. Build unity, trust, and confidence in one another. Become a strong companionship and learn to depend on each other.
Your life now becomes Our life.
That doesn't mean you need to loose your identity, it means you have got your best friend and partner for life. You no longer act in isolation because your actions directly impact more than just you. Where you and your spouse rely on each other and support each other. Where you work as a team for the good of the relationship. Your decisions are two desicions merged into one
Selfless, not selfish
Building and nuturing a happy marriage is not easy, It can be and is hard work
Great satisfaction and fulfillment comes when all those things i mentioned are put into prctice whereas failing to build a happy marriage leads to a lot of regret and sadness.
So, what's the key to creating this happy marriage? selflessness.
Being each other's companions for life and beyond requires sacrifice on both parts. There's a constant need for give and take, and for compromise. Put your spouse's needs and desires above your own - to be more concerned with him or her, than you are with yourself (which is no easy task!) it takes skill and practice to get it right. So time and patience is needed by both people in the relationship. Recognise the sacrifices your spouse makes for you and always make a point of telling them you appreciate their efforts. One of the beautiful things about marriage is that the two of you together can accomplish, create, and achieve far more than you ever could on your own.
Give each other room
It means being his or her constant support through what each are trying to acheive in their life, providing encouragement along the way. It's believing in them even when no one else does - perhaps not even themselves. It's pushing and helping them to achieve their goals and aspirations.
Be Youself
Create your own life as well as your own happy marriage. Enjoy the ride. Be patient with yourselves when things are moving slowly and the road seems rough. Everyone has those moments, so don't stress yourselves out. It's easy to feel pressure to follow what other people do, to keep up with the crowd, to feel like your personal worth is dependent on the next promotion, or any of the other ways to get ahead. ThosODSe pressures rarely leads to real satisfaction. Instead, resist the temptation to look sideways at what others are doing. It's okay that you do things a little differently
So what now ?
You're two different people, with different talents, gifts, passions, and dreams. Pursuing those dreams while merging your lives together isn't always easy.
So, how can you maintain unity in your marriage?
Try out these tips
"You" becomes "Us"
First figure out how to work as a team. Build unity, trust, and confidence in one another. Become a strong companionship and learn to depend on each other.
Your life now becomes Our life.
That doesn't mean you need to loose your identity, it means you have got your best friend and partner for life. You no longer act in isolation because your actions directly impact more than just you. Where you and your spouse rely on each other and support each other. Where you work as a team for the good of the relationship. Your decisions are two desicions merged into one
Selfless, not selfish
Building and nuturing a happy marriage is not easy, It can be and is hard work
Great satisfaction and fulfillment comes when all those things i mentioned are put into prctice whereas failing to build a happy marriage leads to a lot of regret and sadness.
So, what's the key to creating this happy marriage? selflessness.
Being each other's companions for life and beyond requires sacrifice on both parts. There's a constant need for give and take, and for compromise. Put your spouse's needs and desires above your own - to be more concerned with him or her, than you are with yourself (which is no easy task!) it takes skill and practice to get it right. So time and patience is needed by both people in the relationship. Recognise the sacrifices your spouse makes for you and always make a point of telling them you appreciate their efforts. One of the beautiful things about marriage is that the two of you together can accomplish, create, and achieve far more than you ever could on your own.
Give each other room
It means being his or her constant support through what each are trying to acheive in their life, providing encouragement along the way. It's believing in them even when no one else does - perhaps not even themselves. It's pushing and helping them to achieve their goals and aspirations.
Be Youself
Create your own life as well as your own happy marriage. Enjoy the ride. Be patient with yourselves when things are moving slowly and the road seems rough. Everyone has those moments, so don't stress yourselves out. It's easy to feel pressure to follow what other people do, to keep up with the crowd, to feel like your personal worth is dependent on the next promotion, or any of the other ways to get ahead. ThosODSe pressures rarely leads to real satisfaction. Instead, resist the temptation to look sideways at what others are doing. It's okay that you do things a little differently
